Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Realities Details

Our week so far has been filled with pondering, talking, and making decisions. Leif had a summer job all lined up to start when we got home from our trip. Shortly after we got home he started and soon found out it was not going to work out. The company was not established enough. They weren't really ready to have employees yet. So we have been job hunting... again.

When you live in a small town, your qualifications aren't really that applicable when you are looking for a job. The question is, who is hiring and are you willing to work for the amount that they are able to pay you? Leif was really hoping to start working for Zions Bank. But unfortunately because of the economy they are holding off on hiring for a bit. We are hoping that he will be able to work for them by the middle of next month. Until then, Leif has had to get a job at Wendys so we can pay the bills. I feel blessed that he is humble and responsible enough to take the job so he can take care of us.

Our health is still no fun. We all have colds and Jakob did end up getting it too. So we're smearing on our GOOT and taking our vitamins, and trying to get better.

We will all start school full time online the end of August. Leif will study with Dixie State, I will study with Global College Of Natural Medicine, and Jakob will be in Preschool and Dance. And Caleb will probably learn to sit up. :)

We have many blessings to be grateful for and many things to look forward to!

The Five Love Languages

Tonight I have been pondering a lot about one of the most helpful books that Leif and I have ever read together. We were blessed to read it right after we got married and we have referred to it throughout our marriage. It is called The Five Love Languages written by Gary Chapman. Rather then trying to convince you that Dr. Gary Chapman has some great advise, I will give you a taste of his great work and let you decide for yourself.

The following is from his website: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

"Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in “English”, if your spouse understands only “Chinese”, you will never understand how to love each other. . ."

Words of Affirmation
"Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.” Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved. . ."

Quality Time
"Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.
Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.
An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate. . ."

Receiving Gifts
"Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.
If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate. . ."

Acts of Service
"Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate. . ."

Physical Touch
"Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the
relationship. . ."

You can define what your love language is by taking a 30 second quiz on Dr. Chapman's website: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/ He also gives some suggestions on how to apply the love languages in our relationship as well as how to begin the reconstruction of a shaky marriage. Dr. Chapman addresses the following subjects on his website:

Making Marriage Work: It doesn't have to feel like a chore
Getting Started: Six First steps to a new beginning (from newlyweds to empty-nesters)
Conflict Resolution: Finding Hope in Anger's Clothing

The Frequently Asked Questions that are discussed on the website expand on a lot of struggles that we might face at one time or another.

Frequently Asked Questions About Marriage

1. How can I get him to really talk to me? answer
2. When do I address my spouse's irritating habits, and when do I "let it go"? answer
3. How do I nurture a spiritual relationship with my spouse when I don't feel comfortable praying out loud? answer
4. We are both working full time and when I get home, I start dinner but my husband comes in and sits on the couch. How do I encourage him to participate in household chores? answer
5. My spouse is not a believer, but I am. How do I cope with this? answer
6. My spouse professes to be a believer, but I see no fruit in his/her life. What should I do? answer
7. I found out my husband is addicted to pornography. Where do I turn? answer
8. I have tried, but I really don't enjoy sex. I am just doing it to be obedient. What can I do? answer
9. We got married because I was pregnant and now I feel like I have made a big mistake. Can I get a divorce or do I have to stick it out? If so, where do I start? answer
10. How can I get her/him to have sex more often and make sure we both enjoy it? answer
11. After being married one year, I'm not sure I'm "in love" anymore. Where could we have gone wrong? answer
12. I recently got married, but have been on my own for many years. How do we build a life together? How do I submit to my spouse's decisions after making my own decisions for so long? answer
13. My husband is in a position of authority within the church. I feel uncomfortable sharing my struggles with anyone at church and feel so alone. answer
14. My husband/wife is emotionally abusive. My friends are all telling me not to stay. When is it okay to leave? answer

Dr. Chapman also addresses a lot about anger and apology on his website and in his books. I appreciated his book titled Five Love Languages For Children too. I think it will be more beneficial later on down the road!

I really hope that you might find the Five Love Languages to be as helpful to you as it has been for Leif and I.

God Bless!

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Where Does Jesus Live?

I have been thinking a lot about how we are teaching Jakob about the gospel and about the Savior. We are trying to make these subjects common topics of discussion. This morning as we walked into the church I reminded Jakob that we needed to be reverent because Jesus was with us and He wants us to be reverent. Jakob's eyes and ears perked up and he began searching. He began asking "Where is Jesus?" Then he saw the stake high councilman walking to the stand and he asked "Is that Jesus?" We would smile and try to answer him the best that we could.

He tried to figure out where Jesus was through the majority of the meeting. But as he was looking, I began to become more and more perplexed. How in the world do you explain to a 3 year old where Jesus lives? We could tell him that Jesus is in his heart. But that isn't entirely true. That is the Holy Ghost. Jesus is a physical being, therefore he can't dwell in our hearts. So where does He live? Well He lives in heaven. So, where is heaven? All around us. But why can't we see it? Well . . . ? There are answers to these questions. But they aren't the answers that a preschooler understands.

So Leif and I pondered about how we can help Jakob understand. Leif prayed about it, and this is what he came up with. Tomorrow for family home evening we are going to prepare a peach cobbler without Jakob knowing and have it cooking in grandma's oven when we go down for family home evening (we have FHE outside in the back yard) When Jakob walks in the kitchen he will surely notice that there is a delicious smell emanating from the oven. Thus the beginning of the lesson. We will talk about how we can smell the yummy cobbler, but he can't see it. But he knows it's there because of the sweet familiar smell.

That is like heaven and Jesus. Heaven is all around us. We can't see heaven or Jesus, (unless He wants us to) but we know that they are there because of the sweet feelings we feel when they are near. When Christ is near, the Holy Ghost witnesses this to our heart. It is up to us whether we recognize the feelings or not.
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Saturday, July 12, 2008

Ponderings About The Girls

I often dream about the girls. Most of the time I am telling someone their story, or sometimes I am frantic because I know that I have a baby laying somewhere in the house and I have forgotten to feed it for hours and hours. Last night they were both there, but like it was when Rhea was born her sister had already passed away so I was panicking because no one had fed Rhea for the whole day. She was still alive. Caleb woke me up shortly after that dream... to feed him. Sometimes, like another dream I had last night I dream about others who have twins or triplets and I envy them.

But then, I wake up. And the emotions that are displayed in my dreams are no longer apparent. Except over the 4th of July weekend. The Sunday before the holiday there was a story shared in Relief Society about a little girl who had beat the odds in the NICU and even though the doctors told her parents she would have severe brain damage. She survived and had no signs of her early struggles. Of course not long after that someone told me another story very similar to this one. And I began to wonder . . . What if we would have held out just a little bit longer for Rhea?

I finally talked to Leif about it. He is always a light for me in dark times. He reminded me of the facts about Rheas health. She was showing signs of seizures. Her kidneys had failed. She would not have made it. And that is what the Lord told us. He reminded me that we got our answer. We knew what we had to do then. We should never question an answer from the Lord. Though we might not ever really like the answer, we must accept it to find true peace!

The House Has Been Under 80 Degrees For Two Days!

Yesterday I finally decided that I had to work harder to keep the house cool. The heat was draining all of us. It wasn't below 85 after noon. So I took action!

We made sure the AC was on from the morning light on. We didn't open the curtains. We only had two of the lights on in our house (we live in a one bedroom studio type house.) We kept the fans on high and the humidifier blowing out cold humidity. It worked! By dinner time yesterday I was able to use the oven for dinner because it wasn't too hot in the house. Wonder how I kept the house from heating up by the stove? Well, I faced a fan towards the oven to blow the heat back at it. I covered the top of the stove and the door of the oven with a blanket. And it worked beautifully! I miss the light. But we feel better.

Sometimes you just have to accept what you have and work with it! Where there's a will there's a way.

Friday, July 11, 2008

To Everything There Is A Season and Order

I was inspired this morning by my new friends blog. She shared her testimony about a few verses in the bible. It got me thinking about my scripture study. Or the lack thereof. We have family scripture study. Jakob is still willing to sit and read with us for the most part. We challenge him to listen for the different references to Jesus as we read, and then we let him mark them with a highlighting pencil.

But it's my personal scripture study that has been struggling. So I will try to do better! Right now I am consumed with the desire to move forward. I'm sure you know what I mean. The desire to provide for your family and meet everyone's needs including your own...

Leif and I are doing all that we can right now to do that. There are just many obstacles that come along the way. This morning a couple of my favorite scripture verses come to mind.

Ecclesiastes 3: 1 - 8
1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. www.scriptures.lds.org/en/eccl/3

I need to remember that there are many many seasons of life. All the way from losing and mourning the loss of a child, to the few months that it takes to potty train a child. The key is that if your struggling with the present season, remember that it will eventually end and the journey of a new season will soon be upon you. So, our challenge is to plant and harvest as many seeds of learning as we possibly can during that season so that you can apply them to the next season.

I also very much appreciate the counsel given in the Doctrine & Covenants Section 88: 119 - 120

119 Organize yourselves; prepare every needful thing; and establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God;

120 That your incoming may be in the name of the Lord; that your outgoings may be in the name of the Lord; that all your salutations may be in the name of the Lord, with uplifted hands unto the Most High. www.scriptures.lds.org/en/dc/88

This can be our endless goal. I can work on this for a life time no matter where I am, no matter what is happening in life. If I can follow this counsel from the Lord then I will be continually moving forward.

So, now I will go and work on establishing a house of order. It does not matter the size of the home, there will always be something that needs to be put in order.

With God, all things are possible!

Wednesday, July 09, 2008

A Day Focused On Holistic Health: GOOT Recipe and Natural Medicine School Announcement

Last night we watched a documentary on Netflix's Instantly to our computer. It is called Super Size Me! It was incredible. Leif and I already have their same opinion, that fast food has the potential to make the world sick. They tend to see it as a conspiracy. Personally, I see it as a business situation. Fast Food and Grocery Owners are business owners. I don't think they are out to kill all of their customers. They are out to sell their product and if the customer will buy more, they'll keep selling it. I think the problem is that we, the human family, do not value our bodies. If we valued ourselves we would never allow ourselves to consume something that is harmful. Too much of any one thing has the potential to become a problem.

We need to teach ourselves and our children why our bodies are valuable. Those reasons will have to come in another entry. Right now I just want to say, I hope you'll think about the issue that this documentary is trying to get out and apply what you learn to your life.
Leif and I began pondering what will will do when we send our kid's to school (unless we home school) and there are no options for good healthy foods. We determined that of course we would send them with a lunch, be we will also continue to teach them about the value of healthy eating and hopefully they will act upon those teachings when they are more independent.

Information about Super Size Me: "On the heels of recent lawsuits against McDonald's, director Morgan Spurlock takes a hilarious and often terrifying look at the effects of fast food on the human body. For one month, Spurlock eats nothing but McDonald's food, ordering everything on the menu at least once and "super-sizing" his order if asked. With obesity on the rise, Spurlock's film begs the question: Where does personal responsibility end and corporate responsibility begin?"

Leif and I have had a bit of a throat infection this week. Unfortunately, Caleb came down with it last night. I have tried some of my home remedies to try and help him. He's laying asleep with Lavender mist blowing over him from the humidifier. This should help his fever go down. Yes dad, I gave him IB Profin;) But I know that what he has is a virus and antibiotics won't help him. I knew that garlic was the answer to his ailment. But at 3 months old even having him ingest garlic oil could potentially make him sick. So I went to my trusty friend Google, I found exactly what I was looking for!

A lady has a great blog and she put a recipe on her site for GOOT. It is Garlic, Coconut Oil, Olive Oil put together to make a salve. Here is the recipe:

" I will have you know that we have been using this remedy for a few years, and this is the first actual recipe I found for it. I am glad I found it, because my recipe is for olive oil and garlic, and I chopped it instead of putting it into the blender/food processor. I just leave the garlic chinks in mine, and I notice it does get stronger as it ages.

I love this list of all of the ailments this mixture can be used for. We put it into little noses today as well as into ears, and I can already see a marked improvement. We always rub it on the bottoms of feet and put socks on, because your feet are like a direct line to your bloodstream. Recently, I rubbed some on Isaac’s chest, and he coughed when it reached his nose… ahhhh! good! That meant that it works like Vick’s too! Great! We rub it across the bridge of the nose and the outside of the ears too.

GOOT Garlic Oil Treatment
Anti-infective/Anti-fungal/Anti-parasites
MAKING GOOT
Warm three tablespoons of Coconut oil over stove until melted and add three tablespoons of olive oil. Remove from heat and add three tablespoons of fresh chopped garlic. Blend at slow speed, then at high speed for two minutes. Use a blender or coffee grinder. Pour mixture through a screen to remove chunks of garlic that the blender may have missed. Pour into a wide mouth jar and label it “GOOT.” Place in a refrigerator.
Freshly made, the mixture is a milky color and runny. GOOT turns into a thick soft paste after one hour. After being in the fridge for several hours, it is just hard like a salve easy to spread.

MEDICINAL PROPERTIES OF GOOT, rubbed into the skin, transfers raw garlic oil directly into the blood stream. Apply on the feet of children or infants to fight infections. Rub on chest for chest colds, pneumonia or rub into nostrils for sinus infections. Place on cotton swab for ear infections. Apply directly to sores inside the mouth. Rub on Athlete’s foot or genital area for jock itch. Insert GOOT into affected area for yeast or other related infections. Apply on rashes any place. GOOT kills Candida, parasites, bad bacteria and virus by direct application.
In addition, it treats systemic infections by absorption through the skin into the blood supply and travels throughout the body. After two weeks, make a new batch of GOOT.
http://www.nacd.org/more_information/health/goot.html
http://www.welltellme.com/discuss/index.php?topic=3310. "
-- Jacque Dixon

I'll make it this afternoon and let you know how it goes. Not that I doubt it!

Finally, I will let you all in on a possible adventure that I am pondering about embarking on. Ever since we lost the twins I have gained a strong appreciation for holistic health, meaning healthy nutrition, herbs, etc. Over the last two years I've pondered getting a Holistic Health Practitioners Certificate. Then I could actually give out my thoughts and advise legally. I've looked through many different schools over time and I found one that Leif and I are really impressed with it is called Global College of Natural Medicine. If I do decide to start school again I will do their Holistic Health Practitioner program. Here are the details of the program:

GCNM’s home-study Holistic Health Practitioner Program contains 20 comprehensive lessons, covering topics in the areas of holistic nutrition, herbology, environmental medicine, energy work, mind-body medicine, anatomy, terminology, and much, much more.
A Holistic Health Practitioner is someone who is an expert in various aspects of holistic health and is able to offer clients a wide array of natural treatment options. An HHP is able to evaluate an individual’s diet and lifestyle, and uses the latest advances in nutrition and holistic medicine to offer positive lifestyle changes and a personalized meal plan and exercise program. An HHP has advanced knowledge of anatomy, medical terminology, vitamins, minerals, and herbs, and possesses strong empathy for his fellow men.

An HHP recognizes that the whole person needs to be treated and is able to assess the client’s emotional state, while helping to establish a positive balance between body, mind, and spirit. An HHP works on the premise that the body has an innate healing ability and his/her job lies in helping to establish the right environment for self-healing to take place.

Career possibilities for Graduates:
At this point in time, many Holistic Health Practitioners choose to work in private practice offering individualized consultations. Others may be involved in:
- Manufacturing or formulating dietary supplements. - Holding health seminars - Writing articles or books on various aspects of holistic medicine. - Operating or working at a health food store. - Educating others about alternative medicine.

This is a 24 month program that can be finished earlier if needed. Of course money is the issue. We'll look in to financial aid and pray about it some more.

Monday, July 07, 2008

Summer Jack-O-Lantern





This afternoon we got a phone call from a member of our bishopric. He was letting us know that a truck carrying a huge load of watermelon had rolled near Kanab. That is not an uncommon occurrence. But when it happens they have to claim perfectly good food a total loss. So all of us in Fredonia and Kanab get the fruits of their loss.

Leif's dad brought us a watermelon this evening and when Jakob saw it he asked if we were going to cut it and put the seeds in a bowl. I asked Leif what he thought Jakob meant, we realized that he wanted to carve it like a Jack-O-Lantern. So, that's exactly what we did! We dug all the fruit out and it's chilling in the fridge. Bet you can't guess what we're eating for breakfast lunch and dinner tomorrow.

We had a fun evening making our Summer Pumpkin. If it lasts through the heat of tomorrow we will probably put a citronella candle in it tomorrow night.

Leif and I Cut My Hair Again



I know I mentioned that we cut my hair a few weeks ago or so. But once it grew a tiny bit I decided that I needed it shorter. We don't have any money for haircuts. So we dove in and took a chance again and cut it ourselves.


I put it in a ponytail right up to my head above my neck and Leif used his hair razor to cut it off. When I took the elastic band off I was worried. But once I took the scissors to it and did a little touch up work I ended up loving it. A lot of people have said they like it too. So that's fun.

Country Livin'



We had a wonderful Independence Day weekend! We drove up to beautiful Alton on Thursday and had a yummy homemade pizza picnic with family and friends. Of course there were smores and trampoline games after dinner.
Alton is a tiny town built in a green valley surrounded by red and white mountains that are covered with green pines and sage bushes. Most of the townsfolk are cattle ranchers so most of the houses are placed next to the large fields. Some with animals, some without. It is wonderfully cool temps and you almost always bid the day farewell with a stunning sunset.

With that said you can get a feel for our surroundings as we celebrated our nations freedoms as well as the town of Alton's 100 year birthday celebration. On Friday we were woke up at 5:00AM our time by the town fire truck's siren. Stacey (my sister in law) is the fire chief, so she and Leif's brother Erik drove the truck. They drove it down every street in town making sure everyone knew that it was a day to wake up and celebrate. Leif went in to the house and helped prepare a delicious breakfast. I stayed in bed with the kids:) I was thrilled that the sirens didn't wake them up. I climbed out of bed a little while later after the town played Big Band music over the town speakers, that got me smiling and hopping out of bed.


After breakfast we went to a parade and then a patriotic centennial ceremony.
That evening we joined everyone in Alton at the park and had a dutch oven cookout, MMM! That night we went home to play a game of Boccie Ball. Grandma took Jakob to the Old Time Country dance. The game was fun, but I found myself missing Jakob. I love to watch him dance! I was delighted to get a phone call from grandma telling me that Jakob only wanted to dance with me. We rushed over to the town hall and I got to dance with Jakob before we headed out to see the fireworks show. That was a special mama moment. The fireworks were a lot of fun too!

Saturday proved to be another fun day! The big event was the truck tour of Alton that we took. Erik drove us through the outskirts of town to see all of the land that Stacey's family owns. We only got high centered once on a log. Mark climbed on the back bumper and we rumbled off the log and kicked up a lot of dust. Just like a normal Baron Exploration Trip!:)

I wasn't surprised when we drove down to the shooting field. Guns are a part of small town recreation. I have tried to shelter Jakob from guns for a long time. I have finally had to accept that he is a little boy and boys are usually fascinated with guns. But I NEVER expected to shoot a gun myself, in his presence. Everyone really tried to get me to shoot the 45 caliber gun. I hesitated for a while. But they helped me realize that if I shot a gun myself, I had a better understanding of what I was trying to explain to Jakob which is that a gun is a VERY powerful thing. And it was!!! After shooting my first target I decided that I wanted to put Jakob in a gun safety and education class this summer. I want him to understand the seriousness of guns so that if he ever comes in contact with a gun while away from home, he will know what to say and do, and why. He and his cousins will start this summer. And no, I don't think I'll shoot again.

We are so grateful for all of our family. We are surrounded by fun and supportive family on both sides. This is a true blessing!

Monday, June 30, 2008

Having Fun With The Blog Colors!

I'm having fun with our color skeam can you tell? Is it too bright?:) Don't worry it will probably change. I like to mix and change things up a lot. Blogging is my new hobby. Hope you're enjoying our blog. Sorry if you're sick of getting emails. Make sure you let me know if you are!!!!

Crazy Weekend Turned Out Fun! But We're Melting!


Oh my heck! How did we survive Hawaii with no air conditioner? I remember feeling just like I do now. I'm sitting at my computer melting! Luckily we do have two window air conditioners. If we didn't we'd all have heat stroke, literally. But we do, so I need to just say thank you for that and look forward to central air in our next home.


This last weekend was a bit crazy. But it turned out great! We planned ahead and went to St. George to go to the temple. There were supposed to be babysitters set up from the ward. But when we got there they were no where to be found. We wandered around the visitor center for a while and took some pictures. Then we just decided to head north to Alton to visit Leif's brother and family. It is A LOT cooler there. We had a blast!


Leif won all of his siblings over and over again in trampoline games. They even got their mom up there to play. It was so fun to watch them. We started a fire in the fire pit and made smores. Of course we barbecued and Stacy made a Delicious dutch oven cobbler.


We were frustrated when we got there because of our SG trip. But being with family and the beautiful coolness of Alton really lifted our spirits. When evening rolled around everyone sat around the living room and planned for their Sunday responsibilities.


Leif and I spoke in Sacrament meeting on Sunday. Our talks were on reverence. I let Jakob give a little bit of my talk. He did a great job! It turned out to be a nice meeting even though Jakob's actions were an irony! Here were are preaching about being reverent in sacrament meeting and Jakob is running back and forth from the bench to the stand, moving from seat to seat. I finally took him to the back of the chapel, then to a pitch dark room where we discussed how to act while in sacrament meeting. Ahhh, the joys of being parents!


Sunday evening was a pleasant one too. We went to visit some friends who just moved into their newly remodeled home. While we were talking they asked Leif if he could give them a massage. They actually scheduled several massages with him for family and friends. Because of this we will be able to pay some bills. It is a true answer to prayers!!

I especially loved the fact that Leif set up his massage table and gave me a first class spa treatment massage. I can definitely recommend him to anyone!!

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